If you’re living with a college-bound senior, like myself, the stress of the application and touring process can be overwhelming. Not only is it overwhelming for the parent, but exceedingly so for the student. Mounting pressure regarding GPA’s and ACT/SAT scores can take their toll, even on the most adept student. Give your graduate the gift of distressing with the following tips:
1. Deter talking about college all the time, let your child determine the right time.
2. Assure your child that they will go to college regardless of what happens.
3. Don’t force your child to apply to colleges they do not want to attend; attempt to discuss options and choices that both sides can live with.
4. Build college tours around family vacations—touring colleges can be exhausting and not ideal for relaxation.
5. Allow your child to open their own incoming college mail—this makes the process real to them.
6. Be firm yet empathetic to your child needing space and down time to de-stress. All academics and no play can equal stress.
7. Try not to make the college application/admissions/financial process the sole responsibility of your child. Remember that although they are maturing young adults, they still need much guidance.
8. Learn to let go and pick and choose your battles—most of all, learn to listen without responding.
9. If there are other children still in the nest, ensure early implementation of good study habits and the importance of academic rigor early on—don’t wait until the last minute. It could haunt you when you realize how much you might have to pay out of pocket due to lack of merit scholarships.
10. Lastly, enjoy the moment and cherish the months to come. Senior year is a time for celebration and last-minute bonding.
